Desire causes expectations. Expectations cause disappointments. Disappointments lead to anger. Anger leads to psychosomatic imbalances, blockages and diseases.
If desires are handled with maturity, disappointments will be less and so is anger.
On Source of Anger
How to handle disappointments and traumas? Leave them behind and move on. It is important to forgive yourself and others and let go, decisively and deliberately. The worst you can do for yourself is to carry the weight of your dead past and suffer from its weight.
On the importance of Unhooking from the past
We are a bundle of misunderstandings. All our lives, most of us, live these misunderstandings. Here are some of those:
A. We believe that we are our personalities, based on possessions and positions.
B. We are deciding our lives every day.
C. We own earth, big or small.
D. We are bigger, higher or greater than the other or we are inferior to another.
E. We believe we are this body, mind or personality and struggle to maintain it. Panic when it is affected.
F. We bank heavily on relationships and believe that they are here for our sake while all relationships are as good as individual, independent karma allows. (desire patterns and vasanas or inclinations permits).
G. We experience disappointments when our expectations of permanence fail. We do not remember that everything evolves and changes every moment and nothing that’s born remains the same forever.
These are a few of our favorite, frequent misunderstandings.
On Ironies and Misunderstandings
Individual karma (with its roots in unfulfilled desires) is the cause of events of life. Those who attribute to another, especially a guru, for their sets of successes and failures of life are existing in gross ignorance. Grace can only soften the intensity of hard-earned desires. A guru can probably soften the impact of experiences by giving awareness and energy protection. Nothing more. Birth, death and major events of life are predetermined, predestined before taking this birth. A guru has nothing to do with it. If this is not understood, estrangement from the guru is the result, along with its quota of disappointments, disillusionment and despair.
On Raw Destiny
The secret of serving without attachment is to expect that those who you serve may become totally thankless in the future. But help anyway. Your purity of intention, as well as zero expectations, will keep the act of service extremely pure and unconditional. This is in the case of human beings. All other beings will always remain thankful. More expectations, more disappointments. No expectations, no disappointments. Do not expect Gratitude and you will be free.
On Selfless Service
Forgiveness is connected to acceptance. The more we accept, the more we forgive. Acceptance of people, places, events, emotions and disappointments unconditionally will easily detach you from the pains of it and help you stay liberated in life. When acceptance is absolute, forgiveness is a byproduct.
Methods of Forgiveness
The root causes of most confusions, misunderstandings, disagreements and disappointments are our inherent prejudices.
On damaging prejudices